The problem with the passion of collecting objects.
Collecting passions are basically useful, although sometimes they can be a nuisance for parents. The child collects things, that somehow intrigue them, are interested, they enjoy playing with him, he is often more attached to the colored pebble he finds, shells or cones, than an expensive toy. Therefore, this childish inclination should be respected and not insistently urged, to throw away these valuable - in his opinion - items, much less do you throw them out yourself when your child is away.
Although it often forgets about it, brought back an hour ago from a walk, but after some time, under favorable circumstances, he will suddenly remember the treasure he has found, it will be much needed, so the child will start searching. We assume anyway, that it hosts all its toys. He knows best, what he needs, and what no longer amuses them. It should decide that, what can be thrown away, because it is broken and useless, what to give to the younger child, because it is in perfect condition, but it was clearly boring, it's too childish, so not interested. Because of toys, just like shoes and clothes, the baby just grows up. It is us parents who should teach them to care for their belongings and toys, taking care of it, let there be beauty in them. get used to, to keep these treasures in order. So it's worth taking care of, make sure the box is the right size. Not one big cardboard box, because it is difficult to maintain order in such a place, but several different boxes sized to accommodate the items stored in them.
It is best to think together with your child, where they can have their permanent place, or on a toy shelf, or in a specially designated part of the wardrobe. And then let's try to get used to the child, to sort their treasures from time to time, it was throwing it away, which he considers unnecessary, to collect only the things you need, which he uses in play, would know, what and where it stores.
These collecting tendencies of children sometimes take on a humorous form. I knew the boy, who very carefully folded and stored all the read issues of "Miś". The parents were happy at first, that their son from an early age shows such a passion for order. However, when Stas announced to his mother, that he would no longer cut and glue the pictures published in "Misiu” toys, they became concerned. This has been his favorite activity so far. The boy's sudden decision surprised his parents. They could not understand the motives of his decision. Mother began to ask, what caused such a change in his tastes. And it was in this conversation that Stas once again declared, that he has no intention of destroying the magazine by cutting out toys.
– I submit so, that I have, when i grow up, for his son – he spoke – and how do i get it all out, what he will do next?
A preschool child does not yet have a developed sense of time. never like, how long is a week, month, year. Nevertheless, it is worth convincing them, that only these things deserve to be kept, which are known, we'll need them tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, and maybe even during today's game. Putting something down, which may be useful in the distant future, it is pointless. Sometimes it will take a long and patient time to explain and convince, before the desired effect is achieved. But only patient persuasion is the right and effective way of persuading a child, not pressure or insistence, to act in a way, like us, adults, we deemed appropriate. We can expect permanent changes in his behavior only then, when it accepts the validity of our arguments
With time, when the child grows up, will become more picky, it will collect and accumulate only these things, which will interest them. And just having certain items is no longer enough for him, will strive for it, to get some information about them. Because with age, these childhood collecting passions usually transform into true collecting. Boys often collect miniature car models and at the same time amaze their surroundings with knowledge about different brands and types of vehicles, about their advantages and disadvantages. Others collect miniature figures of soldiers, and at the same time information about the armament of armies in different epochs.