The fight for toys

The fight for toys.

It is no less important to face the fact, that another child also wants to play with the same toy for a while. And then, when two hands reach for a toy at the same time - there is no other way - someone has to give it up, give way to the other, be content with something else. It's not always easy to learn, and when playing together, interest is always not your own, but a well-known alien toy. What to do, when the little guest's hands reach for the one closest to his heart?

Sometimes it takes a long time, before the little man finds out, that this most favorite toy of all in the hands of another child does not die and does not disappear, does not change, but after a few moments it comes back again – the same as it was - into the hands of the owner. And there was no need to worry about her. In time, you will also have to understand something much more difficult: that you can reach for someone else's toy only then, when you use yours.

It's good, if such an experience is gained by the child as early as possible. If he learns, before she goes to kindergarten, play with another child, share your "favourite" even toys with others. If he can play no, only in your own home, but also in the house of a friend of the same age. And that's then, when he knows, that mom, dad or grandma is just outside the door, in the next room, and also then, when he knows, it's the same with my friend. That the parents will come after some time.

Okay, when a small child pays visits to his peers and stays alone for some time with a friend, but not your own home. When he's with friends, but not the closest people. In this way, he gets used to the change of environment and gets used to the conviction, that nothing bad will happen to him outside his own home, that his parents will surely come back to him. A child remaining in the company of peers in a strange house will more easily accept the necessity of separation from loved ones, when it comes time to start preschool education. But for a child, who rarely interacts with colleagues, most of the time he stays only in his house, having to stay in kindergarten can be a difficult experience. Just like a preschooler, we carefully prepare for school education, in the same way, a small child must slowly get used to the new life situation that awaits it: not to be surprised by it, to feel good right away. Educators state, that children, who grew up in nurseries, easier to establish contacts with their peers in kindergarten, than children who are only used to being around adults. So let's try to allow a child raised in a family home to meet his peers as often as possible, with some older friends, as well as with the younger ones, requiring assistance and care.

Joint play of small children should take place under the supervision of adults. Children often need to be told, that found themselves in new conditions, unlike everyday, what they can do, start an interesting game. Sometimes there are various misunderstandings between small partners, best to counter them, to prevent. And when it comes to a fight, you have to persuade, that a toy, that another child is reaching for, nothing bad will happen.

Intervention in children's disputes should always be very tactful, calm and above all fair. And you have to remember, that our children are not always right. The most common cause of misunderstanding between young children is a toy. They both want to have it at the same time. If no two are alike, you can settle the dispute by proposing: you give her your teddy bear for a while, and you will play with her doll yourself during this time. An argument that appeals to a slightly older child may be a reference to the custom of hospitality, so let's translate: "He's your guest today, so let him play with his dog, and tomorrow, when you will be with him, he will give you his most beautiful teddy bear".

Small children, although they like to play with adults, highly value being in the company of their peers. So let's try to take care of the child's social contacts, allowing him to play with his peers and with a slightly older friend, and also with the younger one, in relation to which our little boy will assume the role of an experienced guide, and if need be, that and the guardian. All such contacts are for the child – especially the first one, the only one in the family - extremely necessary. They enrich his experience, help in proper adaptation to different situations and conditions, accelerate social development.